Make room for the other version
Ask what the other person understood before assuming that you are arguing about the same facts. For a message about how to announce pregnancy after a friend's loss, use this factual base: state only the information you have permission to share and be clear about timing, privacy, and practical needs.
Correct the record precisely
Correct only what you can support, acknowledge any real impact, and propose a practical way to prevent repetition. Ask for the conversation, support, boundary, or decision that is actually needed now. Make the immediate next step clear enough that the recipient can answer without reconstructing the entire history.
Agree on a testable next step
Do not demand celebration, explanations, medical details, or a public announcement. Use qualified medical, counseling, safeguarding, or emergency support for health concerns, coercion, or immediate risk. Do not recruit an audience, publish private evidence, or turn a misunderstanding into a campaign about character.