Clarify the agreement that existed
Identify the promise, policy, schedule, ownership, or shared understanding that applies before assigning blame. For a message about how to support someone after a business failed, use this factual base: acknowledge the specific loss, uncertainty, or process and avoid assumptions about performance or finances.
Resolve the next dependency
State what is complete, what remains disputed, and which action would move the situation forward. Offer one practical connection, review, reference, or quiet check-in and let them choose the timing. Make the immediate next step clear enough that the recipient can answer without reconstructing the entire history.
Document without threatening
Do not compare careers, ask intrusive money questions, or send opportunities before asking. Direct legal, immigration, discrimination, financial, or mental health risks to qualified support when needed. Keep a factual record and describe only remedies you are entitled and prepared to use.