Crisis and disaster support

Support someone after an assault

Offer useful support after a crisis without turning the person into a source of updates or dramatic details. This page focuses on how to support someone after an assault while keeping the message clear, proportionate, and fully refusable.

Write your messageHow it works

Choose the right purpose for the message

Decide whether the message is meant to inform, apologize, ask, support, or close a practical loop. For a message about how to support someone after an assault, use this factual base: confirm what they have shared, their current location or immediate need, and avoid repeating unverified information.

Use detail that helps a decision

Include the smallest set of details that lets the recipient understand the impact and choose a response. Offer one concrete resource, task, safe place, transport option, or flexible check-in. Make the immediate next step clear enough that the recipient can answer without reconstructing the entire history.

Know what the message cannot achieve

Do not photograph, publish, fundraise in their name, or arrive at a crisis site without permission. Follow local emergency, evacuation, shelter, trauma, and safeguarding guidance before relying on a personal message. The message can offer clarity, but it cannot guarantee forgiveness, agreement, attention, or renewed contact.

Common questions

People also ask

How do I support someone after an assault?
Confirm what they have shared, their current location or immediate need, and avoid repeating unverified information. Offer one concrete resource, task, safe place, transport option, or flexible check-in. Keep the first message focused on one purpose rather than every unresolved part of the relationship.
What should I include when I support someone after an assault?
Include verified context, the real impact, the decision or support needed now, and any genuine timing constraint. Do not photograph, publish, fundraise in their name, or arrive at a crisis site without permission.
What if they do not respond after I support someone after an assault?
Plan what you will do without a reply before sending, so silence does not trigger a new series of messages. Follow local emergency, evacuation, shelter, trauma, and safeguarding guidance before relying on a personal message.

What Kildr supports now

The full request stays simple. The controls around it are deliberate.

Opening is free

Recipients never pay to open or read a Kildr message. Before opening, they see who is asking when the sender chose to identify themselves and the total amount paid. A sender phone number is shown only when the sender explicitly chooses to share it.

The recipient stays in control

A recipient can decline without opening, block one sender, opt out of Kildr entirely, or report an opened message. A normal sender block can be removed by the recipient later. Declining means that message can never be viewed afterward.

Three optional responses

After opening, the recipient can choose “I need to think”, “Text me”, or “Never contact me again”. The first two can be switched after a 10-minute cooldown. “Never contact me again” is final, and the recipient can permanently block that sender or all Kildr requests.

Themes and read receipts are optional

Senders can choose free themes or buy a premium theme. An active paid theme is added to the visible Amount paid total. A separate read-receipt add-on unlocks Opened and Read status; without it, the sender's lifecycle information stops at Delivered.

Paying creates the request and optional sender features. It never creates an obligation for the recipient to open, respond, unblock, or make contact.

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