Account for the relationship as it is now
Use a tone that fits the present relationship, not the closeness, authority, or access that existed in the past. For a message about how to support someone recovering from drug use, use this factual base: use the person's own language for recovery, name the practical concern, and distinguish a lapse from what you do not know.
Ask without assigning an obligation
Explain what you hope for while making decline, delay, or a different format genuinely acceptable. Offer a specific sober or practical support option and encourage connection with qualified help. Make the immediate next step clear enough that the recipient can answer without reconstructing the entire history.
Keep the ending honest
Do not shame, bargain, lend money without limits, or make your relationship the reward for recovery. For overdose, dangerous withdrawal, suicidal intent, violence, or immediate risk, contact emergency or crisis services now. Avoid future promises, guilt, flattery, or nostalgia that imply the recipient owes you access.